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I am the child of racists. Growing up, I took a lot of heat from my parents for not being racist enough. I was told that it’s morally wrong for white people and black people to be friends, to visit each other’s homes. I should not be too friendly with […]

How I Used To Support Racists, Still Thinking I Hated ...


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Eight years ago, I was a right-wing political junkie. A daily Limbaugh listener, nightly Focus on the Family listener, and I wouldn’t watch CNN if you paid me. I was convinced that Barack Obama was a socialist who would do horrible damage to this country due to his radical liberal […]

Women’s March on Washington: Why I Went, What I Saw


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It began in earnest one year ago today. Of course, two days prior we’d lost David Bowie, and that hurt. But one year ago today I held my grandma’s hand as she slipped from this world into the Other. 2016 was known as the Great Reaper of celebrities. Bowie. Rickman. […]

A Year of Loss and the High Cost of Self ...



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In less than 48 hours since the election of Donald Trump, people all over the country have experienced racial aggression and harassment not seen in years. After a campaign that stoked the worst in America – going past dog whistles to outright embracing racism – it was no surprise that […]

Protesting Racism, Homophobia and Misogyny Is Not a ‘Temper Tantrum’


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Today I feel as though the air has been punched right out of my body. A man that embodies racism, homophobia, and the vilest misogyny has been elected president of the United States. Already he has cost me, personally, the tenuous peace that existed between myself and my emotionally abusive […]

When Darkness Wins, We Fight


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So, my dad is a big Trump supporter. He’s also a huge Duke fan, so clearly he has issues with judgement. But to be quite honest, (again, thanks to that anonymity I’ve got mostly going around here) he’s always been a racist. I repeatedly got in trouble as a kid […]

My Dad, Donald Trump, And The Great Queen



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So while we’re on the subject of my past trauma, let me recount a story for you. At the age of 14 I went to a concert. The adult relative who took me stayed in our assigned seats while I went down to the front to join the crush of […]

Donald Trump and Sexual Assault


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This is the second article discussing how the United Pentecostal Church and it’s teachings caused trauma in my life. I’m laying bare these old injuries in an effort to understand, and hopefully, heal from them. You can read about what caused this need here.    “Are you sick?” The question, […]

Being A Woman In The UPC (United Pentecostal Church)


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The other night I had a dream. I was supposed to attend a service at my old church, but overslept and didn’t go. As people started returning from the service, one was the Pastor’s Wife from when I attended. Only it wasn’t her. It was a very old, very disfigured […]

United Pentecostal Church Inflicted Trauma



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When I was a small child, growing up in the mid 70’s in rural Western North Carolina, segregation was still an unspoken rule. My elementary school was all white, and I rarely if ever encountered African Americans. My maternal grandmother took me shopping in Asheville once, and we passed a man […]

Bible-Based Bigotry Is Not New In North Carolina


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I am so sick of hearing the stupid line, “men have no business in women’s bathrooms.” It’s a ridiculous mischaracterization of transgender WOMEN. But over and over, the roughly 35% of North Carolinians who still support House Bill 2 trot that line out to defend it. When you call them on the […]

Live From North Carolina: Showdown With The DOJ


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The Truth Apostolic Church in Madisonville, KY is having a very bad week. Not only did their pastor, Michael Orten, hire a convicted child rapist and put him on the “outreach team” where he (among other things) runs the Bus Ministry (which gives children a ride to Sunday School) he doubled down […]

UPC Pastor Defends Child Rapist: “It Takes Two To Tango”